Think about how many people are in your family; parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins and think about all the friends you have accumulated over the years. Most people have at least 40 people in their mind. We have to release people of expectations we think they should meet. Release these people even if they hold a title in your life, such as sibling, aunt, uncle, etc.
Even if you had no job or school to attend there is no way you could consistently keep up with 40 people. If you are doing so, ask yourself am I working on the goals I’ve set in life or the purpose I’ve been placed on this earth to fulfill. Stop getting mad because someone is not answering their phone or reaching out. You may find that someone you made a priority has filed you in the call when bored category. We all have the choice of including or excluding each other in our lifes.
Tom was on to something with the Top 8 friends on Myspace. The relationships you make a priority in life changes over time. It doesn’t mean there is ill will or hatred between the two parties, sometimes relationships are complete. You can love from afar or catch up occasionally.
My caregiver journey showed me quickly where I stood with certain people. It’s ok to be a little hurt but move on; there is so much more life to live than living in the past. If you truly value the relationship, talk to them but if you continuously repeat yourself, free yourself. Who knows your paths may cross again someday but focus on the present and who is there now.
So ask yourself whose your Top 8? Are you nuturing those relationships? Are both of you respecting one another and growing? Everyone won’t be on the same level but don’t remain connected with anyone disrupting your peace.